Counselling & Psychotherapy 2018-07-09T20:42:40+00:00

Counselling & Psychotherapy

Why consulting at Change Counselling & Psychotherapy?

You are welcome to contact me if you are experiencing any individual, identity, school, professional, family or couple difficulty you cannot manage on your own any more and that is due to any of the following circumstances.

  • Life event that leaves you traumatised, much distressed or has forever changed your life. As a trauma specialist, I work at different stages of the psychological trauma with issues such as historic and recent sexual abuse, terrorism, road accidents, domestic and physical violence, most of them coming along with grief and loss, relationship, dissociation and body issues.
  • Grief and loss, including the loss of a position or of the meaning of life
  • Feeling depressed, wanting to die
  • Inability to form satisfactory relationships
  • Repetition of painful relationships or situations
  • Finding it too hard to adapt to your environment and to meet social expectations
  • Somatic condition that is overwhelming and disabling
  • Difficulties in managing emotions such as anger, anxiety, sadness
  • Suffering from mental disorders that impair your life and your relationships such as obsessional behaviour, phobia, bipolarity, voice hearing, eating disorders, addiction, dementia
  • Feeling lost or never having really met your true self, including gender dysphoria
  • Wanting to understand yourself better
  • People you love are worried about you or suffer from your behaviour and encourage you to see someone, even if you don’t want to or do not really understand why
  • As a carer or a friend, you support someone and you need to be supported as well

Whoever you are, you fully deserve the support you need. Sharing the story of your distress will help you make some positive changes because of the cathartic and healing power of having your testimony witnessed, held and acknowledged by another.

Counselling or Psychotherapy?

The terms ‘counselling’ and ‘psychotherapy’ are often used interchangeably but counselling is generally more focused and shorter, typically 6-12 weeks, whilst psychotherapy is more in-depth and longer term. Both are about changing through talking, where the therapist acts as a catalyst to bring this change about.

However long the path, your therapeutic journey starts with you feeling unwell or left with unresolved questions and seeking some answers and improvements. Choosing a therapist and booking your first appointment is a major step towards your wellbeing.

I always start with an initial consultation where we review your reasons, concerns and hopes to see what is relevant for you at this time. We would then arrange further sessions if we decide to continue. Most commonly these are weekly, but what matters most to me is to support your empowerment by processing at your own pace and respecting your constraints. Also, a weekly consultation is not always the most clinically relevant; sometimes you will need some more, depending on your circumstances.

Most important in my view is to find some continuity and regularity in our work, and I know by experience that people do intimately feel what their needs are. Therapy is not about forcing things but rather about revealing and trusting the self-healing and self-awareness mechanisms we all have inside us.

I try and adapt to each person’s needs and circumstances. In that respect and when I feel it is adapted, I include creative means such as playing, drawing and writing, as well as body work including relaxation, meditation, mindfulness, guided imagery and breathing techniques.

Although starting therapy always triggers some sort of anxiety, it is often full of hopes and anticipation. Ending, in contrast, revives our feelings relating to separation, loss, grief and guilt. And in-between sessions, and far beyond therapy itself, what you can get from this journey is the key to a mindful and soulful hence a freer life.

Who can consult at Change Counselling & Psychotherapy?

I offer therapy for adults, young people, couples and families

  • Adult therapy

    Whatever your issue(s), I help you to review emotions, thoughts, early life experiences and beliefs to highlight the relationship patterns you have developed over time. Recognising these recurring and often painful patterns can help you see how you avoid distress or develop defence mechanisms to cope with difficulties. The therapeutic relationship is central as you can re-experience your patterns with me and then reflect on them in a safe place, without fear of rejection or retaliation. Of course I adapt to each person’s needs and circumstances.

  • Young people therapy

    Issues which may arise in those who are in their early teens and twenties may consist of difficulties with identity, gender, peers, sexual or developmental concerns, school or career challenges, family differences and so on. Projecting yourself into the future with new roles and responsibilities is often emotionally challenging as you don’t know who you are any more and need to redefine yourself. Because the rapid physiological, sexual, cognitive and emotional changes often characterising this period may be overwhelming, you may find my services to be beneficial to support your transition from adolescence to adulthood.

  • Couple therapy

    Couple work is somewhat different from individual psychotherapy. Mainly, I will not delve into the individual experience of a person with the same persistence and intensity. Instead I will focus more on the relationship dynamic between you and your partner, as the main goal of couple therapy is about improving or restoring the communication. It can also be about breaking up properly, or overcoming together life events such as psychosexual difficulties, pregnancy, parenting, loosing a child, redundancy, infidelity, illness, ageing and so on which often shake the grounds of what being together means for each of yours.

  • Family therapy

    Families and those in relationships sometimes get into difficulties due to times of crisis or long-standing problems. The aim of therapy is to work on the whole system by encouraging family members and loved ones to help and empathise with each other. You are given the opportunity to understand and appreciate each other’s needs, build on family strengths and ultimately find ways to cope collaboratively with any distress, misunderstanding and pain that is affecting your relationship and putting the strain on the family unit. I can help you explore issues such as work and school-related problems, parent-child conflict, and stressful and traumatic life events such as divorce and separation, illness or death of a loved one, and transitional stages of family development that can cause pain and upset.